Suffered a Bereavement
In Times of Bereavement
In the unfortunate event that a person has passed away, there are three things that must be done in the first few days;
- Get a medical certificate from your GP or hospital doctor (this is necessary to register the death)
- Register the death within 5 days (8 days in Scotland). You will then receive the necessary documents for the funeral.
- Make the necessary funeral arrangements.
Register the death
If the death has been reported to the coroner (or Procurator Fiscal in Scotland) they must give permission before registering the death.
You can register the death if you are a relative, a witness to the death, a hospital administrator or the person making the arrangements with the funeral directors.
You can use the ‘Register a Death’ page on the gov.uk website that will guide you through the process. This will also explain the registration process for Scotland and Northern Ireland.
Arrange the funeral
The funeral can usually only take place after the death is registered. Most people use a funeral director, though you can arrange a funeral yourself.
Choose a funeral director who’s a member of one of the following:
These organisations have codes of practice - they must give you a price list when asked.
Some local councils run their own funeral services, for example for non-religious burials. The British Humanist Association can also help with non-religious funerals.
Arranging the funeral yourself
Contact the Cemeteries and Crematorium Department of your local council to arrange a funeral yourself.
Funeral costs can include:
- things the funeral director pays for on your behalf (called ‘disbursements’ or ‘third-party costs’), for example, crematorium or cemetery fees, or a newspaper announcement about the death
- local authority burial or cremation fees
Funeral directors may list all these costs in their quotes.
Bereavement and Loss Counselling for Adults @ Harlington Hospice
We offer a one to one counselling service for those experiencing bereavement, a life limiting illness or those caring for someone with a life limiting illness.
The service also offers support through groups for those who are living with life-limiting illness and their carers.
Spiritual support is available for those of any faith or those with no faith, as one aspect of our holistic care. We have a garden room which provides a quite space for one to sit, contemplate and reflect.
Our services are free of charge and open to anyone aged of 18 or over who has been bereaved, including carers and who are registered with a GP in the London Borough of Hillingdon.
Our counselors are trained to listen with empathy and provide a safe, supportive and completely confidential environment.
If you feel that you can benefit from our support in any of the ways above, you can either refer yourself directly to us or ask your GP or health professional to refer you.
To find out more, please contact the Lead Counsellor, Sharon Merchant on 0208759 0453
Bereavement and Loss Counselling for Children @ Harlington Hospice
We also offer counselling to children and young people aged 4–17 years old who live in the South of the London Borough of Hillingdon. This service is available to under 18’s who have experienced a bereavement or have someone close to them with a life-limiting illness.
To find out more, please contact Lead Counsellor, Sharon Merchant or Children’s Therapist, Syreeta McKay on 020 8759 0453
Hillingdon Talking Therapies
Hillingdon Talking Therapies is a free, confidential NHS service which provides psychological treatment for depression and anxiety disorders.
38 Riverside Way, Off Rockingham Road
Uxbridge, UB8 2YF
Who is the Talking Therapies Service For:
Talking Therapies and counselling services are suitable for people with problems which have arisen fairly recently. Feelings of low mood, anxiety, excessive worry, negative thoughts, panic attacks, particular fears or problems coping with daily life and relationships or suffered a bereavement, are all suitable for brief focussed talking therapies.
To Self-refer by phone: 01923 844 667/8
Eligibility criteria (who is the service for?)
The service is able to support people who:
- Are a resident of Hillingdon or registered with a GP in Hillingdon.